Coming to the conclusion that a relationship needs to end is an extremely difficult one. It usually takes months, or even years, for a person to get to that point; and by then, you’re so overcome with raw emotion that just making the decision can almost seem like a weight being lifted off of you and you want to charge forward, to get on with your life. The question becomes, how do you do that? What steps do you need to take to actually move forward? One of the first steps you should take is to consult with a divorce attorney.

How to Divorce in NJ

The process of getting divorced in New Jersey can be a rather complex one. Any missteps could result in substantial added costs being incurred both emotionally and financially and could result in delaying your divorce. Because of this it is important that you speak with someone who knows how to divorce in New Jersey. More specifically, speak to a divorce attorney who practices in your county .

At some point, one of you is going to file for divorce. Where the matter goes from that point, and how long it takes to reach a conclusion depends almost entirely upon you and your spouse. The sooner you can reach an agreement on the various issues in your case, the sooner you will be divorced. However, saying you can reach an agreement is usually easier said than done. Each case must be considered and evaluated on its individual facts. How will the property be divided? Are children involved? Will there be alimony and child support? Each of these issues is critical and could impact you for years to come. This is why it is so very important to hire a divorce attorney that is well-versed in the constantly changing arena of family law in NJ.

While you are going through your divorce process, you will hear many terms you might not understand. “Case Management” “Early Settlement Panels” and “Discovery” are just a few examples. It is important to find a divorce attorney who will take the time to explain these terms and this process to you so that you can understand exactly what his happening, and exactly what your potential risk and rewards could be.

Positive Results

Divorce can be an extremely traumatic and trying process. You most likely will need to go through the issues of dividing and distributing property, finding new living accommodations, coming to a decision on child visitation and support, the list goes on. A lot of negative emotions begin to surface during the process. Ms. Friedland and Mr. Shauger are experienced divorce attorneys who have been down this road with many clients before and can help you resolve these issues as quickly as possible. Ms. Friedland and Mr. Shauger will counsel you on the relevant issues of your case and will help you approach your situation with reason rather than emotion. In doing so, your chances of creating a workable agreement with your spouse will be greater and there will be fewer traumas for all involved. Like you, it our attorneys goal is to help you resolve your divorce as quickly and efficiently, with as little stress as possible.

Ms. Friedland is also a trained mediator and has been approved for admission to the roster of Mediators for Economic Aspects of Family Law Cases administered through the New Jersey Superior Court.

Divorce Alternatives in NJ

Not every divorce needs to be litigated. On average, only 3% of all divorces in New Jersey have to be tried. That means that 97% of all other couples could get divorce have found another way to get through the process. Some of them started out in litigation and were able to reach an agreement somewhere along the way. Some of them opted to try one of the other alternate forms of divorcing in New Jersey such as mediation or a collaborative law divorce.

Mediation is a form of divorce in which the parties agree to sit down with a trained mediator to try to work out a agreement that both of them can live with. The Mediator will then act as a neutral third party who can assist the couple by offering suggestions, investigating options, and exploring possibilities in the hope of coming to a final agreement. Ms. Friedland is trained to provide divorce mediation in New Jersey.

Another option you might want to consider is a collaborative divorce. In a collaborative divorce, both parties are represented by independent attorney’s who will negotiate on their behalf. The couple then works with the attorneys to create a team to help them reach a fair agreement that everyone can live with. This is an excellent option for a couple that feels they require more guidance or assistance than what they would get in mediation, but still wants to avoid the time and cost that could be involved in litigating their divorce. Ms. Friedland has been trained to provide collaborative divorce representation in New Jersey.

Complex divorce matters

As we said before, every divorce is different and must be assessed on the individual facts of the case. While some people are able to resolve their issues quickly, with little information needing to be exchanged, others can be quite complex. Are there businesses involved that need to be valued? If so, are there issues about income streams and alternate forms of compensation like perks or stock options? Do either of the parties or any of the children have special health or education issues? Are there allegations of money or assets being hidden or even destroyed in anticipation of the divorce? All of these are very important questions that may need to be addressed and it is important that you have a divorce attorney who has experience dealing with these issues and is familiar with the current state of the divorce law in New Jersey.

After You are Divorced

Most people think once they walk out of the courthouse doors after their divorce they are done. Unfortunately, some attorney’s feel the same way. This may not be the case. Are there retirement accounts that need to be divided? If so, there may be papers that need to be prepared and filed with the pension companies. Are there bank accounts or lines of credit that need to be closed? Do you need to establish accounts for paying alimony and child support? Our attorneys know that just because a couple is divorced, this does not necessarily mean that they are “done” and will continue to work with you, even after the courthouse door closes, to make sure you receive the full benefit you may be entitled to.