Holly Friedland is an experienced mediator in divorce and family law cases. She has been providing mediation services for the over seven years and is admitted to the Roster of Family Law Mediators for both Morris and Sussex Counties. Ms. Friedland is frequently appointed by the courts to provide mediation in pending divorces. Ms. Friedland also provides private mediation services for couples who wish to avoid the time and cost of a protracted litigation.

What is Mediation

Divorce mediation or family mediation is a non-adversarial means to work out divorce, post divorce, or separation issues. These issues can include custody, time-sharing, alimony, child support, and the many other situations that may arise during divorce and separation.

Divorce mediation has many benefits compared to divorce litigation and saves on both time and attorney’s fees and can take the place of going to court before a judge and having him or her decide the matter. Mediation and divorce in New Jersey are not exclusive options. In other words, just because a divorce is already pending, this does not mean you cannot also participate in mediation to try to move the process along, or resolve it entirely. Because both parties are cooperatively trying to work things out, divorce mediation is almost always faster and less expensive than going the route of litigation. However, it is important that you have a trained mediation attorney in New Jersey to assist you in the process. Ms. Friedland is a trained mediation attorney with offices located in Moriss County, New Jersey.

When is Mediation Law Appropriate?

Mediation is almost always a viable option to resolve any family dispute. Couples can elect to participate in mediation prior to filing for divorce, while a divorce is pending, or after they are already divorced when new issues arise. The good thing about mediation law vs. a standard divorce is that the parties are in control of the process. The couple decides when sessions are scheduled, and how many sessions there are. The couple decides on the parameters of what is to be discussed. The couple also decides on what they believe a fair outcome to be, without the restrictions that can be placed upon them in a litigate divorce.

Mediation is a voluntary process in which the couple agrees to work together to try to resolve their issues amicably and fairly. The Mediator’s job is to work through these issues with the couple by offering options they might not be aware of and pointing out consequences they might not have originally considered. When needed a mediator can also act as a referee; however, a mediator will not “decide” an issue. Their goal is to be neutral and to work with the couple to come to a resolution on their own.

Mediation can also be an option for couples who have never married but have children in common or who have combined their finances or assets.

In reading this you might wonder what the difference is between Mediation vs Collaborative Law. In Mediation a single attorney acts as a neutral third party to assist a couple in reaching an agreement. In Collaborative law, both parties have independent counsel who will negotiate on their behalf to try to obtain the best result for their client.